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Welcome to the fourth and final of our what Happens
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October of twenty twenty four. I'm Sean and with me
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as always is the one and only John.
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I am the only John in the room.
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For our final special presentation this month, we are so
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proud to share something truly exceptional from Navigating Advocacy. The
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hosts of Navigating Advocacy, Whitney and Melissa, are two people
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in the ethical true crime community that we look to
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for guidance and support. They have dedicated their work in
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podcasting to serving families, and multiple times a year they
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participate in searches and awareness events because they really believe
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in supporting the community and advocating for justice and change
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through action.
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We ask Melissa and Whitney if we could share this
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app episode because at the True Crime and Paranormal Podcast
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Festival earlier this year, many advocates were there working hard
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to get the word out about this missing woman, Bianca Carrasco.
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She vanished from San Antonio on May one, twenty sixteen,
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leaving behind three children. We know that her sister and
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family appreciate the support and everyone who shares information on
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Bianca's story. You can visit the help Us Find Answers
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for Bianca Crossco facebook page. After when you're done listening,
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about their work and be sure to subscribe and follow
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them on all of the socials.
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And now a special presentation of Navigating Advocacy.
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Welcome to Navigating Advocacy.
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I'm Melissa and I'm Whitney.
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We discussed topics that may be sensitive to listeners.
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Discretion has been.
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Vibe Happy Monday, Happy Monday.
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I hope everyone that has children or is a teacher
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or something related to the school system has kind of
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settled into their groove now that you're back in school.
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I am, for one, am glad that the kids are
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back in school.
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Same here, especially having two in high school. Now. It's
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absolutely surreal that I will be an empty nuster before long.
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Better start thinking about it now. So you can prepare
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for it.
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Oh no, I'm going to keep that box shut until
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the day of graduation.
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Thank you.
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You're going to be hot meat press.
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That'll be as hopefully one day and not all year.
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Lung is the goal.
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That's true. That's true. We don't have a lot coming
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up until October. We're pretty chill until October and we'll
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be in the Berkshires.
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Yes, it's made a great event. Our tickets still for sale.
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Yep, they are. Just go to Berkshire Podcast Festival dot com.
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You can get your tickets there. It's a lot of fun.
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It's absolutely stunning there, especially in the fall. You get
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all of the fall colors from the New England area
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as they call it, and it was just I'm really
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sad that Melissa missed out on it last year, so
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we're excited to be able to do it together this year.
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I am beyond excited. I just keep thinking about the
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cooler weather that's going to be up there that time
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of year. So so excited to be wearing hoodies.
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Yes, it's chilly, it's wonderful. The house we're staying it
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has a fire pit. We'll have to remember to get
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firewood this time. Last time that was like a hard
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thing to find.
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But it's okay, all right, I'm looking forward to it,
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all right.
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So here we are in the lone star state, Texas,
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where I've lived my entire life. It is a prideful
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state at that No one loves their state more than Texans.
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Our home to many things, including excellent barbecue, waterburger and
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of course BUCkies. Texas is the second largest US state
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in population after California, and the second in size after Alaska.
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They say everything is bigger in Texas, and I feel
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like that is true. About the list of stories to
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share this week, we are navigating advocacy in San Antonio.
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Hailey Gray shared this story with me several months ago.
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And I know we talk extensively about Haley, but there
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really aren't enough words in the English language to explain
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her kindness and genuine care, especially for victims' families. I
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could honestly sit and talk about Haley for an hour,
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but she wouldn't like it if I did. Hailey brought
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this story to my attention after a Billboard campaign was
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granted through Season of Justice. Hailey shared her excitement for
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the family and asked some logistical questions about how we
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do our regular flyer campaigns. I jumped at the opportunity
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to take care of that for her, one because she
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does so much already, and two because this story is
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not far from where I live. I wanted a hand
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in helping. We planned to distribute the flyers the same
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week the Billboard launched, and even though we had yet
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to share this story here on our podcast, it was
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more important to make the biggest splashed we could than
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to worry about it coinciding with the release of this episode,
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So I've been waiting to share the story for quite
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some time. Today we are navigating advocacy for Bianca Carrasco.
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Bianca Zanette Carrasco was born on July twenty first, nineteen
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eighty six, in Odessa, Texas. She had an older sister
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named Jovanna, whom I had the privilege of meeting, but
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you'll hear about her later. The two were close, not
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just in age, but also as friends.
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We shared a room together. We're only eighteen months apart,
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so we were c We're both pretty girly. I think
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I'm a little bit extra than her, you know. It
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was kind of something she poked fun at me about
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but I don't know. As we got older, it was
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always fun to go shopping together and dress up our
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girls and all of that good stuff.
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The two lived with their mother until Bianca was around
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eight years old and Jovanna was ten, and that's when
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they moved in with their father in the Houston area.
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The girls had a rough home life with their father.
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He was physically abusive and extremely strict. They were not
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allowed to see their mom or any members of her
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side of the family. This drove a huge wedge in
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between them and ultimately led to them not having much
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of a relationship with the maternal side of the family.
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Bianca was sassy, loved to dance, and very very funny.
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She loved shopping, She loved make up, all the beauty stuff.
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She loved dancying with food. She was funny. I love food,
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I love all kinds of food. Now I'm trying foods.
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But Bianca was a creature of habit and she was
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very picky and still very plain. So if she ate
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a cheeseburger, it was only gonna have cheese or she
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had very specific restaurants she went to. She never liked
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trying anything new.
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At sixteen years old, Beyonca's life changed forever. Around two
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thousand and two, Bianca became pregnant and this infuriated her father.
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He sent her away while she was pregnant and forced
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her to give the baby up for adoption. Bianca was
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heartbroken and started to rekindle the relationship with her mother
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and her family in Odessa, but it wasn't quite the
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reunion Bianca was hoping for. Her mother struggled with substance
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abuse and it caused major riffs in the family. Shortly
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after returning to Odessa, Bianca began a relationship with Joe
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Daniel Carrasco, who goes by Daniel. Bianca had known Daniel
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for a while before this relationship began because he was
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her aunt's ex husband and was eleven years older than her.
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Daniel was twenty nine years old and Bianca was only eighteen.
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Although Bianca knew who Daniel was before they started dating,
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Bianca was not close with this side of the family.
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She didn't grow up near them and never built an
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uncle niece relationship with him, so their relationship is just
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what it is. It's just a relationship. Daniel and her
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aunt had divorced after he assaulted his best friend well
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before Bianca and Daniel started to date. Their relationship took
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off pretty quickly. Bianca became pregnant with their first child
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after a month of dating. Daniel and Beyonca moved into
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his home with his child from a previous relationship and
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provided for her. Bianca settled into this role and thrived
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in what appeared to be a stable home. According to
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the Charlie Project, the two may have had a rocky relationship,
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but their family and friends never noticed any red flags
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per se. But Beyonca was big on appearances. She never
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wanted anyone to know that something was wrong. In two
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thousand and eight, Bianca enrolled in an LVN Fast Track
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program at Odessa College. This is an intense program that
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doesn't follow the traditional two semester model. It was a
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solid year from August to August with minimal breaks. The
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class became close friends fairly quickly because they spent so
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much time together, and this is where Bianca would meet Julie.
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After the first few months, the two bonded and became
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extremely close after learning that they lived just a few
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blocks from each other. They began writing to clinical rounds
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and school together. They even spent weekends studying until the
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two graduated in two thousand and nine.
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That's amazing that she's a mom going to school full
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time doing these very intense program and then the fact
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that she met someone kind of in the same space
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she is that she kind of needed that. It's probably
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the first time she's felt stable and like she was
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putting herself first, So I just like love this.
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They were both hired at the same hospital, and Julie
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said that Bianca was an amazing nurse. She was compassionate,
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patient caring, and a true advocate for her patients and
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their families. Julie also was a single mom to three kids,
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and there were times where Bianca had to play at
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the single mom role because Daniel worked in the oil
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field and would be gone for week long shifts. Julie
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and Bianca adjusted their work schedules to be opposite so
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that they could help one another with childcare. It's always
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good to have one of those besties that you can
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rely on.
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It's it's amazing and so needed, especially because she didn't
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have a great family support site system outside of her
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husband and kids. So the fact that she had this
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best friend to help her is just so cute, but
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then I'm so weird. I'm like, Oh, they didn't get
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to work together, but obviously taking care of the children
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was more in their priority at that time. I absolutely
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love that too.
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One of Julie's favorite things about Bianca is that she
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loved music and to dance. One of her favorite songs
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was Party in the USA by Miley Cyrus. She couldn't
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not dance to it, especially with her oldest daughter. They
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had an entire routine choreographed. Julie also recalls a moment
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when she had been keeping Bianca's kids and a significant
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rainstorm had passed through the area, causing flash flooding. Bianca
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called Julie for help. A road around two blocks away
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from Julie's house was known for flooding, and Bianca had
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chosen to take that route to pick up her kids.
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She attempted to drive through the flooded street, but her
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car stalled and she couldn't make it. She called Julie
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for help because Daniel was out of town at the time.
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Bianca told her that her car was stuck in the
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wall and painted this picture as if her car was
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flooding and that she was in extreme danger. Julie rushes
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over the two blocks away and sees that Bianca's just
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sitting inside of her car. It stalled out, but it's
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not flooded. And her normal yet slightly dramatic tone, she
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asked Julie to help her because she didn't want to
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get her new tennis shoes wet and ruin them.
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My gosh, that is really one of my greatest fears
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is getting flooded while I'm driving, or driving through water
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and not knowing how deep it is. But that's hilarious.
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I love image she didn't want to get her shoes.
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Julie rolled up her pant legs, took off her own
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shoes and socks, and walked through the barely mid calf
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deep water to give Bianca a piggyback ride from the
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car to a dry section of land. Julie said that
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Bianca was laughing the entire time. Eventually, a man helped
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move Bianca's car out of the water and all was fine,
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but Julie likes to talk about the time that she
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saved Bianca from the flood. It became Julie's favorite inside
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joke to text her about any times it rained. She
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would tell her turn around don't drowned. In October of
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twenty thirteen, Bianca, Daniel, and their children moved to San Antonio.
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The family bought a house on Walnut Creek Road, and
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Bianca enrolled at the Galen College of Nursing to gain
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her r N license. Daniel continued working in the oil
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field and would travel from San Antonio to Odessa on
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his scheduled weeks on the rig. He had seven days
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on and seven days off. Bianco worked her tail off
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and graduated with her r N license. In the fall
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of twenty fifteen, she was hired on at a medical